by Caryl Teh
We’ve all had one of those days: you start with a neatly set-out to-do list, a fresh, hot cup of morning coffee and the vibes that today will be a great day. But then suddenly you’re pulled into 4 “short” meetings, the teacher calls informing you that you child is ill, then your boss gives you some feedback on all the work you did yesterday that will require you to re-do everything and your deadline is… an hour ago. Or maybe it’s just that one teammate who has become your definition of a pet peeve.
It’s certainly not healthy to keep those emotions pent up, but when you vent, it’s far better for yourself and your relationship with your teammates to take a few wise tips into account.
When: Write it Down
Humans are reactive by nature. Your inherent fight or flight response is meant to help you respond quickly in matters of life and death. Venting however, doesn’t fall into that category. We recommend you find a way to slow yourself down before errupting any unfiltered thoughts on anyone.
When: Take A Walk
Similar to the 1st tip, this has to do with when you vent. Taking a stroll could help clear your head from all the emotions that might be fogging your clearer, wiser judgment of the situation or interaction. Some other side benefits: get some exercise in, enjoy some fresh air, lower your blood pressure, boost your mood… you know what? Just make short walks a regular thing. Even when you’re not upset. Your mind and body will thank you.
Where: Choose Your Platform Wisely
Ever DM-ed the wrong person? You’re not alone. But more importantly than that, your team chat is meant primarily for communications about work. So here’s our advice: respect the platform – never say something on chat or email you wouldn’t want your team to unearth.
Why: Have An End-Goal
Are you looking for someone to help you find a solution to your problem? Or do you just want them to empathetically side with you? It’s important to identify who can best provide you with the type of support you think you need. So venting to the new intern who doesn’t know what to do with this information and is still in the process of forming their impression of you and your colleagues on their first day with the team… probably isn’t the best option.
How: Add A “Weekly Woes” Agenda
If anyone in your team feels like they can’t share their struggles, then it might help to create a safe space for them. “Weekly Woes” is a 5-10 minute open floor allotment that allows teammates to vent about whatever hurdles they’re facing – personal, or professional. Maybe a survey you created is taking way too long to get responses from your teammates, maybe there’s been construction happening at your neighbours’ houses… one after another… for 6 months now, or maybe there’s a project deadline that’s stressing you out.
Whatever it is, woe-ing in a healthy way helps us all feel more connected with each other. Especially if you’re a manager or team lead, this could help make you more approachable because it reminds your team that you’re human and you struggle with stuff too! With woe-ing normalised, you can all focus on what’s more important: that someone in your team will care, and you can get through it, together.
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